We spend our lives waiting for perfect moments to cherish without realizing the joy of the current moment we’re living in. We miss so many perfect moments waiting for our own kind of perfect. We have no idea that the moment we live in is so precious and extraordinary. Our definition of perfect is so complex and hard to achieve. Social media made this perfect more fascinating and unachievable at the same time. The worst part is that we associated happiness with this unachievable perfection. Many of us believe that life is only that extraordinary moment someone showcased on social media but always remember that no one is posting their fears and failures.
A well-established in less developed country is trying hard to immigrate to more developed country and a well-established in a developed country desperately wants to visit his village in a less developed country. Being content with what we have has become rare. We grow up like this from getting first position in class to select the best career option. We were never taught to be happy with the less. We were taught to be happy with perfect things. We were never taught to be the best version of the person we want to become; but we were taught to be the best version of someone else’s expectations. We were never taught to understand the charm of ordinary but to be extraordinary. We were taught to achieve without a dream. William Martin said,
“Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives. Such striving may seem admirable, but it is the way of foolishness. Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary life. Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples and pears. Show them how to cry when pets and people die. Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand. And make the ordinary come alive for them. The extraordinary will take care of itself.”
Living a healthy life, in a comfortable home, with loving and caring family is the greatest blessing we all take for granted. There are so many perfect moments we witness on daily basis. While fulfilling the expectations of society we forgot to find happiness in ordinary things. Things which make us feel happy can be as ordinary as a walk, a sunset, sky after rain, a rainbow, water drops on leaves, cuddling your pet, sky full of stars, reading a book, walking barefoot on grass, flowers and even a cup of tea with your loved ones. And remember that you don’t need verification from people for your feelings.it should be enough for us that a certain act makes us feel happy. Happiness in life doesn’t come with the perfect things. You don’t have to be the perfect version of yourself to like yourself. This definition of having too much to be happy led us to insecurities. We spend so much time to find perfect in others’ lives that we don’t notice the perfect parts of our lives others strive for.
If you want to be truly happy, stop following the parameters other set for you. Be true to yourself and follow your dreams. Be the best version of your dreams but not someone else’s. Clarity in your ideas, dedication, honesty and consistency lead you to your dreams; comparison leads you nowhere. While achieving your goals, don’t miss small ordinary moments to cherish. At the end of the day people will know us for our kindness, respect we show to them, love, generosity and honesty; these qualities don’t come with an extraordinary living but with learning from every single moment. Every ordinary moment holds so many extraordinarily beautiful moments.
by: Ayesha Mushtaq