“Ali, please come downstairs and have dinner”, calls Haleema, his mother, for the third time. “In a minute MUM, I am busy, you’re so difficult. Gosh. Just leave me alone!” followed with a loud smash of the door. How many of us are culpable of this? It may not be the exact same words, but in some way we have all disrespected our parents, which they certainly do not deserve. Today’s youth have lost respect and reverence for their parents who worked so hard to hoist them. It has become the custom to scream at our parents. We make disparaging remarks and sometimes act as if we cannot hear what they are saying.
Just take a second to step back and reflect: the one who taught you how to walk, eat, and speak – you deliberately CHOOSE to ignore them?
“Parents are like God because you wanna know they’re out there, and you want them to think well of you, but you really only call when you need something.”
Life without parental support can be a catastrophe. We are blessed with a lot of best things in our life. Out of these myriad gran-tangs of God Almighty our parents are great blessings. My Parents are one of the most marvelous people you can find around the world for all the sacrifices they had made for me. Children learn most of the lessons of life from their parents, of which some are good and some are awful. For instance from an alcoholic parent he or she may learn the bad habit of alcoholism. In another case, where if the parents are constantly fighting with each other, the thoughts of abhorrence or trepidation may take deep roots in the child’s subconscious mind. Likewise from an uneducated parent the child may acquire many misconcepts about life itself. These are some of the instances where a parent becomes bad teachers for their children.
Parents need to be excellent listeners. They are sometimes too quick to judge their children’s actions and words that they do not hear them snivel for love, attention or aid. Parents need to listen to their child’s thoughts and reactions to things. Also, they need to let them have their own opinions and voice them too. They should look at their child and show them that they are listening.
If parents want their child to do what is right, I think that they need to set an example by also doing what is right. Children should be taught how to be conscientious, compassionate, meticulous and enduring from watching and learning these traits from their parents. A strong bond is formed between the parent and the child if there is love. This is something magical and enigmatic but both the parent and the child feel it. What makes a parent so special and important is the unconditional love he/she gives to his/her child. A loving and caring environment is very crucial in a child’s growth. It is a fact that the parents have the ideals which can never be shorn of, so love your parents they are a great asset.
Rold Dahl wrote in Matilda, “It’s a funny thing about mothers and fathers. Even when their own child is the most disgusting little blister you could ever imagine, they still think that he or she is wonderful.”
By: Ammara Siddique